Week 2:
(I was emailed by someone that tried to help me empathize a little more with her situation and a little less mine. This is how I responded.)
Yea, I agree... I'm getting better at dealing with it. I just needed to know that she wasn't drunk and hoping for some action... I know it sounds horrible that I would have to ask a question like that but I feel it was essential for me to be able to help her the best that I can. As of now (and I believe her), she felt safe with the stranger and her friend... they were both drugged, but her friend more (her friend drank most of the beer)... who ended up leaving and wondering the street. She remembers most of it now and it was physical and she froze. It's awful but I think we're making some headway, and fast. I have been with her almost all day and night for the last week and we're taking some steps toward a normal week this week. We are mostly dealing with random high levels of stress from both of us that kind of pop out of nowhere... mine because I'm angry at this guy, that this had to happen to her, and that I wasn't there to give it my all to protect her, hers are for a lot of reasons, but mostly because she wants a lot of things to just go away. I get nervous about that, but I think I'll just have to deal with it... This should be a bumpy ride, but I've explained to her that I'm 100% committed and that she doesn't have to talk about anything anymore if she doesn't want to. I did ask her to visit a psychatrist sometime next month when she feels up for it... and after two visits if she doesn't want to, just stop. Do you think we're doing alright??? Any red flags???
